{"id":3498,"date":"2012-07-19T01:00:05","date_gmt":"2012-07-19T08:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.doorposts.com\/blog\/?p=3498"},"modified":"2012-07-19T06:45:59","modified_gmt":"2012-07-19T13:45:59","slug":"putting-off-and-putting-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.doorposts.com\/blog\/2012\/07\/19\/putting-off-and-putting-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Putting Off and Putting On"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"It\u2019s easy to focus on the \u201cdon\u2019ts\u201d in our parenting.<\/strong> We invest a lot of time in disciplining our children for their mis<\/em>behavior, for their bad attitudes, their sinful words, their disobedient and unloving actions.<\/p>\n

But teaching our children to get along with each other involves more than breaking up fights and taking away coveted toys.\u00a0We know that they need to \u201ctake off\u201d the impatience and pride that so often lead to petty and not-so-petty arguments and strife. But we must also teach them to do the right thing. We need to help them replace<\/em> those sinful attitudes and actions with godly<\/em> ones.<\/strong> When Paul tells the Colossians to not lie to each other, he reminds them, \u201cYou have put off<\/em> the old self with its practices and have put on<\/em> the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of\u00a0 its creator\u201d (Col. 3:9-10).<\/p>\n

What if we took our children up to the mountains for a day of sledding and play in the snow, but one little guy somehow slipped into the van wearing a T-shirt, shorts, and flip-flops? Clearly, he would not be properly dressed for the outing. Would we just have him take off<\/em> his summer attire and send him out into the snow?<\/strong> No. We would help him put on <\/em>appropriate attire. We would zip him up into his snowsuit, stuff him into his boots, and send him out to play.<\/p>\n

We need to do the same in the living room when two children start arguing again. <\/em>They are not wearing appropriate \u201cclothes\u201d for a child of God. If we want to help our children glorify God by getting along with each other, we will help them put off<\/em> selfishness and impatience. But we don\u2019t want to leave them with nothing on.<\/strong> We also need to help them put on<\/em> the godly attitudes of compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, patience, and love (Col. 3:12-15).<\/p>\n

We should take the time to encourage and motivate them toward godliness. For instance, we can encourage the bickering child to \u201ctake off\u201d his irritability and to \u201cput on\u201d patience. We could even have him take off the shirt he is wearing in order to put on a new shirt<\/strong> \u2013 one that has been labeled \u201cpatient\u201d. Talk about patience with him and about the idea of putting off sin and putting on godliness. Encourage him to wear the shirt all day, praying for God to help him grow in patience. A simple object lesson like this can help a child better understand and remember the truths we are seeking to teach him.<\/p>\n

The word for \u201cpatience\u201d in Colossians 3 is also translated \u201clongsuffering\u201d. The word is formed from two Greek words that translate as \u201clong\u201d and \u201ctemper\u201d. (Perhaps you will want to write these two words on his \u201cput on\u201d shirt.) The word is often used to describe God, who does not ignore our sin, but is slow to chastise us, giving us opportunity to repent.<\/p>\n

This kind of patience helps us not become irritated with people who wrong or ignore us. Thankful for God\u2019s patience with him, a patient person will calmly bear with difficulties and the offenses of others for a long time, knowing that God is at work, and putting his hope in Him. He does not hurry to retaliate or punish someone who provokes him.<\/p>\n

It\u2018s not always easy for children (or adults, for that matter) to be patient with others. In fact, we all need to remember that we will never<\/em> be able to do the right thing in our own strength. We won\u2019t be able to be compassionate, kind, humble, meek, patient, or loving without Jesus.<\/strong> He is the only one who has lived a sinless life, and when we put our faith in Him and His work on the cross, we actually put on Christ<\/strong>. (\u201dFor ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.\u201d <\/em>Gal. 3:26-27)<\/p>\n

When we put on Christ<\/em>, we put on His <\/em>righteousness, and He gives us the desire and the power to become like Him<\/em><\/strong> \u2013 compassionate, kind, humble, meek, patient, and loving. All our parenting should revolve around that truth.<\/p>\n

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The “crabby” T-shirt pictured above is available from lousmithart.wordpress.com (but your children won’t need any of those. \ud83d\ude42 )<\/p>\n

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