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If-Then Chart
Author:
Pam Forster
Age:
2-16
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This chart is designed to help you be more consistent in disciplining your children. When they disobey, it will help you know what you need to do, and it will help them know what to expect. It has helped my husband and me to be more united in our authority and discipline. Our children have responded very well.
The chart is divided into 3 columns. The left-hand column lists common areas of misbehavior, each illustrated with a simple cartoon (see examples below).
 The center column gives a Bible verse related to each sin. The third column is blank, for you to write in the agreed-upon consequences for each misbehavior. The instructions offer suggestions, but you choose your own disciplinary actions. Our regular wall chart version includes pre-lettered consequences to paste onto your chart, and the small laminated version gives suggestions for writing in your own consequences with a permanent or wipe-off marker.
When a child misbehaves we take him to the chart, read the Scripture, and let him see what the discipline will be. Even our 2-year-old could understand this chart!
The chart helps you deal with the following issues:
- Arguing/complaining/whining
- Teasing/picking fights/causing trouble
- Hitting/biting/kicking/throwing
- Stealing toys, books, or other items from someone else
- Lying
- Defiance/rebellion against authority
- Name calling/foolish or evil speech
- Disobedience
- Disrespect/rude behavior/poor manners
- Irreverent behavior at church
We suggest recognizing your children's godly behavior with the companion chart, The Blessing Chart.
Scripture quotations are primarily from the King James version.
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Customer Reviews
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Elaina of TX, 11/21/2009
what my hubby and i like the most (besides the obvious) was that our kids had a clear understanding of the expectations/reasons for our discipline. with the biblical notations for the 'crime,' our kids could see that the authority was higher than just us :) and, we developed a great vocabulary that communicated clearly what was expected and understood. also, the 'blessings chart' is an excellent companion that is on the kitchen wall right next to our 'if-then.'
Lee of Alabama, 11/15/2009
We came across the If-Then chart a conference with the Maxwell Family. I is truly a blessing. Not only was it good the children, but for mon and dad. It provided consistancy and helped eliminate the emotion from disciline. We are so grateful!!
Next Generation of "if-then" Kids
Mrs. Shannon Jenkins of Olympia, WA, 6/22/2008
The Lord used the "if-then" chart to answer the desperate prayer of a young mother who was newly saved in the early nineties. "Please," I asked Him, "show me how to raise them Your way." I was desperate. The old worldly disciplinary tactics of threats and temper loss were exasperating and impotent. We all knew that my inconsistent responses were largely dependant on my moods. The "if-then" chart revolutionized our family almost over night. Suddenly we could go to the store - or anywhere for that matter, and actually enjoy having our children along. They thrived on the Bible based security and consistency. People everywhere asked why our children got along so well and never fought or disobeyed. Well, we just decided to do it by "the Book"! We shared the chart with many desperate parents. It's so simple really, just do what God says in His Word. The chart simply organizes and presents it clearly for your children to grasp more easily. Well those children are 18 and 20 years old now. Both have trusted in the Lord for themselves and are currently planning to use "The Chart" for their own children when the time comes! I am so thankful that you are still offering it. Thank you for your faithful ministry all these years. The fruit just keeps on coming!
Tracy Spenst of North Dakota, 4/28/2008
I bought the If-Then chart in the late 90's when my oldest two were small (they're 11 & 13 now). It was a great blessing for all the reasons others have said--consistency for parents, Bible verses, no emotional decisions to make. Now we have it out again (we've moved a few times since then) since we found our younger children aren't as obedient as the older ones were. Well, it still works! And tonight I'm e-mailing the link to a friend who's asking for discipline help. Sure glad to find you're still here, Doorposts! Thanks for making such great products!
Candus Berry of Minnesota, 11/22/2007
I was at a friend's house and when it came time to discipline her child, she brought him to the chart and read the Scripture verse. Then the child(4) asked,"How many spankings,Mom." I was so IMPRESSED at how respectful and controlled this was that I'm now online buying one. How neat to use Scripture, have a set consequence, and not just rely on emotions. This will change our family and already has without the chart, though I think the chart is a must to keep everyone accountable.
Andrea Jenkins of Georgia, 10/5/2006
A good friend recommended the if/then chart. I have a 4,3, and 19 month old. It has been great with our oldest 2. No more deciding what the consequence should be - it's on the chart. It not only holds the children accountable, but my husband and I as well. And we know that the only true change can come through the Word and disciplining their hearts. Thank you!
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