This chart is designed to help you be more consistent in disciplining your children. When they disobey, it will help you know what you need to do, and it will help them know what to expect. It has helped my husband and me to be more united in our authority and discipline. Our children have responded very well.
The chart is divided into 3 columns. The left-hand column lists common areas of misbehavior, each illustrated with a simple cartoon (see examples below).
The center column gives a Bible verse related to each sin. The third column is blank, for you to write in the agreed-upon consequences for each misbehavior. The instructions offer suggestions, but you choose your own disciplinary actions. Our regular wall chart version includes pre-lettered consequences to paste onto your chart, and the small laminated version gives suggestions for writing in your own consequences with a permanent or wipe-off marker.
When a child misbehaves we take him to the chart, read the Scripture, and let him see what the discipline will be. Even our 2-year-old could understand this chart!
The chart helps you deal with the following issues:
Teasing/picking fights/causing trouble
Stealing toys, books, or other items from someone else
Defiance/rebellion against authority
Name calling/foolish or evil speech
Disrespect/rude behavior/poor manners
Irreverent behavior at church
We suggest recognizing your children's godly behavior with the companion chart, The Blessing Chart.
Scripture quotations are primarily from the KJV Bible translation.
JK of MN, 7/17/2014
This chart has given us the tool we needed to get our discipline in-check. It kept my husband & I on the same page when giving consequences for our children's behavior. The children got familiar with it very quickly & it seemed effective for our family. It is adaptable to each family's style & is erasable. I would recommend this to parents.
I used my If Then chart for years with my three children. It was a great way to set out the expectations and consequences. Sometimes in the heat of misbehavior, it is hard to be consistent, but the chart lets you step back, take a breath and look at the consequences to apply them rationally and consistently. Now we are using them for the next generation.
Kristin of NY, 8/19/2013
I purchased this chart and the "Blessings" chart to help me with giving my 4 year old and 2 year old a more tangible way of understanding their behavior in the lens of God's Word. At their ages, I have decided to use the empty boxes as a way to keep tally of how many times they did a good behavior (the Blessings chart, or as we call it the blue chart) and naughty behavior (if-then, or the yellow chart). Depending on the end of the day which chart had the most checks would determine reward or consequence. This has been SO helpful with my kids identifying their behaviors. They even tell me which chart they themselves and each other's behavior falls. I am SO glad I purchased these charts. When they get a bit older I will utilize the chart as directed.
I just also purchased the "put on" study. I can not wait to see how that helps them learn tangibly how to put on the characteristics that God is pleased with.
Momlady of TX, 5/9/2013
We are homeschoolers from a while back. Our son had major issues and I found this in a homeschool magazine (can't remember which one). I couldn't wait to get this in the mail. Wow! It certainly helped. The kids colored it in and we sat together to come up with the disciplinary actions to write in. He could no longer argue about it... he had helped come up with the consequences. Didn't think Doorposts was still around. So glad to have found it again. Number one...I now have a grandson who will need this in a few years. And a friend at church is struggling with a willful child. It's good to find an old friend again! Thank you Doorposts!!!
Jessica of SC, 2/7/2013
Our family (and now several of our friend's families!) have greatly benefitted from use of this chart. It helps Dad & Mom to be on the same page with consequences. It has also helped me as a mom to stay consistent throughout the day as I can become frustrated and tempted to throw our unreasonable consequences for repeat offenders. Our kids know what to expect and receive their consequences better than before we started using this tool. It has also helped our kids in areas of behavior where we weren't seeing much progress before. Thanks for sharing this!!
Linda Hads of Oregon, 10/15/2012
I used the If then chart and the Blessing chart with my children when they were young. I'm thrilled to say that my daughter now uses them with my grandchildren!Parents use what works!
Kirsty of Virginia, 9/24/2012
We love the If-Then Chart! It is awesome and we use it daily with our son. Each time he does something wrong, we take him to the chart and point out his sin and read the scripture that correlates with it. I love having something to go to and reference, it makes it so much easier when correcting him. I am so thankful that we have these they are a great blessing.
We used the if then chart and the blessings chart. They are great tools to use and teaches our children the word of God through their actions. I recommend them to everyone to use. It also teaches our children that God deals with us in much of the same ways their parents deal with them. Thank you Doorposts for making these available when my children were small.
Zach's Mom of MA, 11/24/2011
We started using the chart to help with whining and complaining when my son was 4 yrs old. We needed the chart to also help my husband and I to use the same consequence when correcting our son. I sat down with our son and we both helped come up with fair consequences. Now we all know what to expect and every since we started consistently and lovingly using the chart our son is recognizing his behavior and checking himself or asking Jesus to help him.
Macodcass of Glendale,Arizona, 10/20/2011
I used this If-Then Chart when I was raising my children 15+ years ago. My daughter, is now 22 and has her first child who is 2 years old and one on the way. We were talking about this chart and how it help her and her brother when they were younger. She wished that I still had it. I was so pleased to see them on this site and for Christmas I am going to suprise her with this chart and the blessing chart, so she can use it with her children. She will be so excited.
Laurie of Missouri, 8/31/2011
I had 7 children in 7&1/2 years. With my husband working and going to Bible College I needed something that would aid me in consistent discipline. I LOVE the if/then chart!! My family is in the process of working on our own "older" version, but the basics are still the same.
MShytle of SC, 1/1/2011
I originally bought this chart when our oldest son was 2y/o, now 7. My husband was deployed for the first time and I needed some kind of Biblical Guideline for disciplining our son. We are still using the same chart for him and now our next 2 oldest, daughters 3 & 2y/o. I couldn't imagine a day without this chart in our house. Our son has been in AWANAs since he was 3, but he has almost every verse on this chart memorized just by going to it when he makes "Bad Choices". Thanks so much!
Happy Mom of Florida, 8/19/2010
This product is a blessing from God! It changed my children's behavior immediately. I told them about the blessing chart and they have never acted so wonderfully. They volunteered and did things before even asking them. And I just ordered the Blessing Chart today.
Jesus Comes First Ministries of Kansas, 7/30/2010
We are very greatful to have had this chart to put in one place our decisions for discipline. It brings unity to the parents and allows the children to be warned in advance of the consequences. The scriptures are very helpful and handy to re-enforce the view the Lord God has on our conduct.
MamasMooncakes of Hayden, Idaho, 7/26/2010
THANK you for this tool! It has helped my husband and I "get on the same page" with consequences for disobedience. It's helped us be consistent with discipline handed out. I love the fact that the smaller one is laminated so consequences can be changed as the children age etc.
Momof5boys of Alaska, 12/9/2009
This chart has helped our family so much! There were many times I would find myself not disciplining because I didn't know what actions to take. This helps me stay on target. My children also like knowing what will happen. It provides consistent discipline. The verses also have helped us with our Bible memory! Thank you!
Elaina of TX, 11/21/2009
what my hubby and i like the most (besides the obvious) was that our kids had a clear understanding of the expectations/reasons for our discipline. with the biblical notations for the 'crime,' our kids could see that the authority was higher than just us :) and, we developed a great vocabulary that communicated clearly what was expected and understood. also, the 'blessings chart' is an excellent companion that is on the kitchen wall right next to our 'if-then.'
Lee of Alabama, 11/15/2009
We came across the If-Then chart a conference with the Maxwell Family. I is truly a blessing. Not only was it good the children, but for mon and dad. It provided consistancy and helped eliminate the emotion from disciline. We are so grateful!!
Tracy Spenst of North Dakota, 4/28/2008
I bought the If-Then chart in the late 90's when my oldest two were small (they're 11 & 13 now). It was a great blessing for all the reasons others have said--consistency for parents, Bible verses, no emotional decisions to make. Now we have it out again (we've moved a few times since then) since we found our younger children aren't as obedient as the older ones were. Well, it still works! And tonight I'm e-mailing the link to a friend who's asking for discipline help. Sure glad to find you're still here, Doorposts! Thanks for making such great products!
Candus Berry of Minnesota, 11/22/2007
I was at a friend's house and when it came time to discipline her child, she brought him to the chart and read the Scripture verse. Then the child(4) asked,"How many spankings,Mom." I was so IMPRESSED at how respectful and controlled this was that I'm now online buying one. How neat to use Scripture, have a set consequence, and not just rely on emotions. This will change our family and already has without the chart, though I think the chart is a must to keep everyone accountable.
Andrea Jenkins of Georgia, 10/5/2006
A good friend recommended the if/then chart. I have a 4,3, and 19 month old. It has been great with our oldest 2. No more deciding what the consequence should be - it's on the chart. It not only holds the children accountable, but my husband and I as well. And we know that the only true change can come through the Word and disciplining their hearts. Thank you!