“Even a beautiful God-scripted love story can never satisfy the way Jesus does. Even the most heroic and Christlike man on earth can never fulfill the longings of our heart like the true Prince and lover of our soul (Jesus Christ). And until we are able to truly make Him our first love, until we are willing to give up our dream of an earthly love story for His sake, we will never know the fullness of Him who fills us all in all. We will always be looking to a mere man to meet the desires of our heart, rather than to the One who created us, who knows us better than we know ourselves, and who gave His very life’s blood to rescue us.” -Leslie Ludy
There’s so much good teaching about patiently waiting on God’s timing, having godly standards in a relationship, and the importance of marriage, that I think a few of us emotional, excitable girls get a bit imbalanced. Sure, we’re waiting on God’s timing, and sure, we try to cultivate contentment in God instead of a guy, but even if we’re committed to all that—we can still mess it up.
It’s easy to see marriage as the goal of our life, even if we are waiting patiently. It’s easy to get infatuated with the idea of romance, even as we furiously guard our hearts and remain “crush-less”.
If we still see a relationship with a guy as pretty much the most important thing, we’re going to be tragically warped and stunted.
The fact is, Jesus is way bigger than anything else. Our lives are supposed to be all about Jesus, all the time, every day, no matter what. If He is our goal, our purpose, our confidence—we’re empowered to love and serve like crazy, wherever we are in life.
Life isn’t about our dramatic, about-to-unfold love story. Life isn’t about getting our perfect, romantic Christian guy and then having a perfect, romantic Christian life. Life isn’t about us. Life is about Jesus. Life is about a mind-blowing Romance with a mind-blowing Lover. These wholesome, God-honoring relationships we’re waiting for are a tiny reflection of that Romance—not the other way around.
So let’s not get so “in love with love” that we lose track of what’s actually the most important.