Make Some Lists!

I’ve spent the last few weeks with a lot of lists. I’ve been making lists, referring to lists, and checking off lists. We have a wedding in just 23 days (!), and lists are what keep me on track (most of the time). I have lists for food, lists for flowers, lists for purchases, lists for music. I have lists I am faithfully checking off in my well-used copy of All Things Are Ready.

Today I checked off “weed in garden” (I’m counting on those flowers for bouquets!), “go to Goodwill” (they’ve saved me all kinds of money!), “try making confetti”, and “go to Dollar Store”. (I didn’t check off “write blog post” due to other events, so here I am at 12:05, still trying to write it.)

If I don’t follow my lists, we won’t be ready by the big day!

I thought about this as we spent a couple hours in the car tonight. We care so much about this one special day. We spend hours planning, and hours making those plans happen.

How many plans do we make for our children’s years in our home? Their days in our household are just as important (or more important) than the few hours of ceremony and celebration on their wedding day.Do we stop to think about goals? What do we want our children to know and be by the time they are ready to leave our households? What will we do to get them to that point (besides pray!)?



They help us reach our goals.

If you haven’t already done this, sit down and make some lists. (Do this with your husband, if possible). What attitudes, skills, and character traits do you desire for your children as they mature. What does God call them to become?

Then write down at least one goal to pursue this week, and list a real, doable action you can take to start pursuing this goal. For instance, if you want your child to be diligent, give him a job to do — let him help empty  the dishwasher, and train him to be thorough, or have him do yard work for the neighbor lady. Offer feedback to him. Praise and encourage him!

Next week, list two more actions you can take, and make sure those happen. The next week list more! Your children will be growing up and leaving your home before you know it. Make your time count! Know where you need to get, and make plans for how to get there!

(Doorposts’ Plants Grown Up and Polished Cornerstones are the direct result of our sitting down to make some long-range goals with short-range projects for our sons and daughters.)


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  1. Being naturally drawn to list making and loving the satisfaction of checking off things on my list, I really like this idea.

    My question: How do I prevent myself from becoming so focused on my list that I lose sight of why I made the list in the first place? And then I miss what is an even better opportunity than something I had planned.
    I see so many homeschool moms (and I think women in general) have issues with this.

  2. You’re right, Joyful Mom! We have to hold our lists loosely, and be willing to flex when God has a different plan! “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9)

    But we know God’s plan includes leading our children toward godliness and a love for Jesus. We can sit down, think through the different aspects of this lifelong goal, and write down specific ways we can work toward those goals. As we diligently move forward, we can lay those plans at God’s feet, pray for wisdom and humility, and then welcome the even-better plans that God often brings into our lives. HE knows best how to sanctify both us and our children, and that will often involve experiences that we could never have anticipated and that don’t always make sense to us. We just have to trust Him.

    Our plans our always subject to His, but He wants us to be good stewards who are busy furthering the mission of our Master. At the same time, we’re to be humble servants who lay those plans aside when He calls us to something better.

    I know this is harder to do than it sounds when we just talk about it. 🙂 I guess it’s any issue of lordship — who’s in charge? Me or God? 🙂

  3. I am also a list person. I have learned I am not effective without them. I absolutely love this idea and this will be the project my husband and I work on this evening. Thank you for all you do! We have been so blessed by the materials from Doorposts and your blog is so encouraging! Blessings and joy to you!