Why not?

121114GiftsIt’s become a bit of a joke in our family. Every year I’m admonished (by my own children) to behave myself and not buy so many presents — especially now that we’re talking about twenty-two people gathering in our little living room. It becomes a logistical challenge just fitting all the people — along with all their presents — into our shrinking space.

Every year I say I’m going to do better. I’m going to reform. I promise. You wait and see. I’m going to surprise you all.

And then it happens.

The music. The lights. The smells. The excitement.

The first advent candle flickers at the front of the sanctuary, and we start singing songs like Come, Thou Long Expected Jesus and Let All Mortal Flesh Keep Silence.

And there I go again.

I’m not sure I’m going to ever successfully reform.

But then why should I hold back? God didn’t.

Why should I worry about giving “too much”? God doesn’t.

“He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?” (Rom. 8:32)

If God gave His only and dearly loved Son, He’s certainly not going to hold back anything else that He knows is good for us. He’s going to keep loading us with blessings. He’s going to keep pouring out His extravagant love and grace on us.

If God gave His only and dearly loved Son, why shouldn’t I give, too? Why not load those around me with blessings? What greater cause for celebration am I ever going to find?

“Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!” (2 Cor. 9:15)



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  1. I love the truth communicated in the blog that God did not hold back from giving His all and His very very best. However in the last few years our family has found particular joy in giving gifts that may have a more lasting impact-gifts that also reflect the permanence of eternity. Such gifts may be doing a particular task for another person that goes over and above what is expected in the daily routines; or giving to the persecuted church around the world; or giving to the many many countless people around the world who are suffering from disease outbreaks and/or natural disasters-the possibilities are endless.
    Just saying’….

  2. Thanks for your comment, Mommaparcelli! And I definitely agree with you. Our giving shouldn’t be limited to just our families, and it shouldn’t be limited to just “stuff”. But, at the same time, we shouldn’t feel guilty about blessing our families with “stuff”. God inundates us with “stuff” — material, physical blessings — everyday! 🙂

  3. I love this! We are kindred Christmas spirits. 🙂

  4. Yes! Thank you 🙂 Now I know why I do what I do. I love it. woo hoo…

    Thank you Pam for all you have given, in heaven you will know the difference you made in so many lives with doorposts. Blessings to you and yours this Christmas Season. Because His Name IS called Wonderful, Counselor, the Mighty God, the Everlasting Father, the Prince of Peace…love and blessings from the Davis clan

  5. LOVE! Merry Christmas!

  6. Nice to justify gluttony

  7. Thank you Pam, for your wonderful insight on the idea of giving because of what Christ has given us!
    I have another question for you, if you have time! We have been struggling with extended family in almost every area of our lives. We feel like we are trying to be obedient to what the Lord has called us to do, and yet our family sees us as being legalistic and over-protective of our children. How do we love when we feel so attacked (by believers!) and are so convicted of God’s truth? We want to be obedient but don’t know how to find a good balance in loving people who don’t understand or will even consider our viewpoint. We don’t claim to be doing everything perfect, but we do feel that we are to be obedient to the Lord no matter the cost. Is there a way to find a good balance in this situation, or do we need to have boundaries to protect my sanity?! Thank you!!

  8. I hate Christmas with all it’s pagan customs and traditions. We ignore the day completely.

  9. I think that this is fine in a very CHRISTIAN home! But I grew up in a non-Christian environment, and loads of gifts just made me greedy and wanting more more more! Each Christmas I expected more gifts and felt a let down when it was all over. But I suppose if you keep the perspective of it being like God’s many blessings, maybe that would make it more meaningful. But presents, for me and my sister, were the main focus of Christmas and we would even count how many each one got and compare. Blah! Hoping my kids never get that way.

  10. I think it not only needs to be a Christian, but a loving home with solid Christ-built relationships. If the Christmas gifts are taking the place of real love, then yes it breeds greed, because the real need isn’t being satisfied. But with real love in place, gifts become a beautiful extension.

    Great thoughts, Mama! Your children know you love them.

  11. Katelyn, well said. =)

  12. I agree with you, Pam! This has been my belief for the past 25 Christmas’ and now that grandchildren are entering the scene the more the better. Our children are without grandparents or any family…just me and their dad. And they are obedient, honest, hard working kids that have blessed our hearts and daily lives tremendously. I don’t feel bad spoiling them a few times a year. Oh, we give to others and we spend every day around the advent wreath and we truly celebrate Jesus’ birth with cupcakes and ice cream. Then on epiphany we spoil them with our versions of frankincense, gold, and myrrh! Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!