Category: Fatherhood

30 Days in Ephesians 6, Day 13: Provoking, Part 2

In our last lesson we saw that it is possible to provoke our children both to anger and to discouragement. Today we’re going to look at some commentaries to help us better understand how we might provoke them, and how we can nurture and admonish them instead. Assignment: Pray for the Holy Spirit to help you see how this verse may apply to your life and the way you relate to your children. Open […]

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30 Days in Ephesians 6, Day 12: Provoking, Part 1

Children are commanded to obey their parents. That means their parents need to help them learn to obey. But even while we are seeking to do that, we can say and do things that make it much harder for our children to respect and obey us. Today we’re going to look at Ephesians 6:4 and God’s command to fathers. We’re going to look briefly at several key words in the verse to […]

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30 Days in Ephesians 6, Day 11: Honor

Paul tells children, in Ephesians 6, to obey and honor their parents. Do obey and honor mean the same thing? Let’s find out! Assignment: Pray for God to help you learn and obey as you study His Word today. Then open Blue Letter Bible and search on Eph. 6:2. (Be sure you’ve selected KJV for the translation.) We’re going to look at the word honor today. Do you remember how to study a word? […]

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30 Days in Ephesians 6, Day 9: Obey

Now that we have looked in a general way at Paul’s instructions to children, fathers, servants, and masters, let’s take a closer look at each of those commands. Word studies, cross-references, commentaries, and looking at other translations can all help us gain a better understanding of a verse or passage of Scripture, and free Bible study websites help us do this kind of studying in a fraction of the time […]

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Ingredients of Godly Discipline, Part 4: Consequences

Ingredients of Godly Discipline, Part 4: Consequences

As we seek to provide godly discipline for our children, there are times where it’s appropriate for us to devise consequences or allow them to experience the natural consequences of their sin. Why are consequences part of godly discipline? 1. Consequences prove that we love our children. “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” (Proverbs 13:24) 2. Consequences drive out folly. […]

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Ingredients of Godly Discipline, Part 2: Instruction

Ingredients of Godly Discipline, Part 2: Instruction

  Why do we discipline? What is the point of our child-training efforts? It’s not ultimately about good behavior. It’s not about the convenience of having well-behaved children. It’s certainly not about giving out just deserts when children make mistakes. Our first goal as parents should be shepherding our children into their own personal, growing, relationship with God. As God’s representatives to our children during their early years, we’re part […]

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Ingredients of Godly Discipline, Part 1: Preparation

Ingredients of Godly Discipline, Part 1: Preparation

I hear crying coming from the family room, where my three and six-year-old children are playing. I’m sitting in my chair, reading a book, and I don’t really want to be interrupted. But I get up and go in. The struggling stops as I enter the room, and reddened, tear-streaked faces look up at me. “What is going on?” “He was pushing me!” “I had the tricycle first!” “But you […]

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What Should We Do When Older Children Don’t Obey? (Obedience, Part 6)

We’ve been looking at obedience for the past month or so. Daniel has explored: Why we are tempted to allow our children to disobey, Why learning to obey is good for our children, What obedience actually is, and some practical ways to teach our children to obey. We’ve also looked at some reasons for our children to obey cheerfully and some ways to encourage cheerful obedience. Today we’re going to […]

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Training Young Children to Obey (Obedience, Part 4)

Training Young Children to Obey (Obedience, Part 4 on the Doorposts Blog)

Last week we considered what obedience looks like, and how our own example is an integral part of teaching our children. Today I want to look more closely at some tactics for teaching young children to obey. My children are still young (ages 1, 3, 4, and 6), and I’m thoroughly convinced that these early years are the prime time to be teaching obedience. (Next week, you’ll hear from my […]

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Beginning to Teach Obedience (Obedience, Part 3)

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We recently considered why it’s easy to let our children disobey, and why teaching obedience is important. You all raised so many good questions that we’ve decided to spend several more posts working through the practical elements of teaching our children to obey. Today I want to define what I mean by obedience and then consider the first “strategy” for teaching our children to obey. In upcoming posts, Mama and […]

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