Category: Courtship

Courtship in Our Real World, Part 2

Did you enjoy the first part of Susannah and Peter’s courtship story? I am so glad she’s taking the time to get it written down! It is such a testimony of God’s love and grace! One of the things I think we’ve learned — after spending a total of at least five years of our lives overseeing courtships and engagements — is this: We don’t write our children’s love stories. God […]

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Courtship in Our Real World, Part 1

Courtship is an emotional topic. The very word — courtship — can stir up some pretty heated discussions. I think this is partly due to the fact that everyone seems to have a different definition for the word courtship. It’s probably also due to the fact that courtships do, after all, involve emotions. And I’m pretty sure a lot of strong opinions exist about courtship because we, as parents, inevitably make mistakes while trying to do […]

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Courtship, Part 5: What If They Don’t Want Courtship?

What do you do if you see the wisdom of courtship, but your children don’t? In earlier posts, we’ve talked about some reasons for considering courtship and some of the potential pitfalls of courtship. We’ve also talked about how we can start to prepare our children while they are young for trusting us in this area when they reach their teen years. Today let’s talk about what to do when they think courtship is […]

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Courtship, Part 4: Courtship Pitfalls

I had to laugh when someone shared this typically snarky quote from Doug Wilson with me. “Since I wrote ‘Her Hand in Marriage’, I have heard more than one courtship horror story. And more than once I have consequently said that the courtship model means that we have six idiots involved instead of two.” Maybe this is why any post about courtship is usually met with at least a few […]

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Invest Now.

On Tuesday, we spent a little bit of time talking about “courtship”. It’s a challenging topic to talk about because of the different meanings people assign to the word. On another day we’ll discuss some of the pitfalls and common mistakes parents tend to make while overseeing a courtship. Because we’re human and sinners, we’re going to make mistakes. For today, let’s start preparing for the courtship years. Take the […]

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Courtship, Part 3: Some Thoughts on Courtship

Courtship is a topic that’s dear to me because I believe in it. It’s also a topic that’s fresh on my mind. We have six children. Four are married. Another is engaged and will be married in a month. (Oh, my goodness! What am I doing writing blog posts?! ) This will be our fifth wedding in a little more than six years! We can say that we’ve seen courtship […]

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The Importance of Community: Courtship, Part 2

I am basking in the joy of our church’s annual family camp this week. This is the 25th year we have attended camp with this group of fellow-believers! Some of our babies weren’t even born when we started coming to this camp. Now most of them are married, and some are chasing their own little ones around the campground! In between the great singing and eating, learning and sharing, and […]

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We’re Just a Part of Their Stories

The topic of courtship has been on my mind a lot lately. One reason is this: Our “baby” is getting married! And we praise God for the man who will be her husband! God continues to write stories that we could never think up on our own. (More on that in another post. 🙂 ) So if posts are a bit more sporadic over the next two or three months, […]

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The Kind of Guy We Pray Our Daughters Will Marry

I ran across this list on my computer while trying to write a post this evening. It’s a list we compiled several years ago after a discussion with our girls.  We have been praying that each of them will marry a man who is: A dedicated believer of the same doctrinal persuasion, equipped to lead and teach her and his family Motivated by a sincere desire to glorify God through […]

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In Love with Love

“Even a beautiful God-scripted love story can never satisfy the way Jesus does. Even the most heroic and Christlike man on earth can never fulfill the longings of our heart like the true Prince and lover of our soul (Jesus Christ). And until we are able to truly make Him our first love, until we are willing to give up our dream of an earthly love story for His sake, […]

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